Unless you are Kat George, take time to read her article as, after all, it does include some valid points and does explain differences in the social experiences between men and women. Here is the article:
But moving on, this is a direct response that has caused a lot of disagreement and a lot of idiocy. In fact, one person had apparently told George to be “raped by dogs” which is just completely ridiculous and such things should never be said. And while I do believe that George is a well-spoken, well-written and intelligent woman, some things she says in her article just are not right.
These are some things that I am not arguing against, and that I agree with from George’s article:
1) Men have not experienced a large history of institutionalized sexism and social bias against them. Males are the more privileged of the sexes. This is undeniable.
2) Women have it worse off than men. Again, undeniable.
Cleared up? Good, now let’s not bring this up in detail again please, we are in agreement.
The main difference is the definition of ‘sexism’ and how one perceives sexism. The vast majority of the population of the English speaking world believes sexism to be defined as such;
prejudice, stereotyping, or discrimination, typically against women, on the basis of sex.
Before the first point is even made, George addresses all white middle-class men in a patronising way, instantly making her article judgmental and slightly childish. Although this may be a response to judgmental and childish comments, stooping to that level is never a good idea, especially out of context.
“The fact is, if you’re a white, straight, middle-class man, then society operates in your favor, regardless of any instances of discrimination. You always win. Congratulations, you are the lord of the genetic lottery, so give chance a giant hug for making your life so easy.” – This is a little unnecessary.
Generalizing, when it comes to gender matters, has always been a bad move and probably shall be forever onward. I’m sure the white-middle class male who has severe depression, who receives below par medical attention, who is ridiculed by his peers for not being strong or emotionally stable and who is not taken seriously by adults is not on par with a white-middle class male who has a wife, a house, a slightly above-average wage income and a fully insured car. Agreed, this is an extreme case, but it is a case nonetheless. In fact I work in a nursery and, whenever I tell people I do, I am 90% of the time met with “what you like touching kids?” or “yeah sure you do, pedo” – I doubt they would say that to women. Not complaining, not making a big deal out of it, but that is an example of everyday sexism.
We’re not trying to compete with women, we’re not saying that we want sexism to exist. Everyone has issues in their lives and everyone has hardships. Having societal issues is not a competition, but just because women’s are worse than men’s does not mean that you have to tweet something like “Men: I don’t feel sorry for you. I don’t take your arguments about sexism against men seriously. What you’re saying is not real.” – (An actual quote from George’s twitter). Equality is, surprisingly enough, about equality, and saying that you don’t take the problems of men seriously is ludicrous. If you want equality, fight for equality and recognise that there are perks and cons of both sides. Recognition is the first step to fixing a problem.
Something that I had read on Facebook that summed up the article was “I don’t like you because of your race, I’m not racist, I’m just judging you because of the colour of your skin” – that comment is racist. It’s discrimination, it’s prejudice, it’s racist, regardless of who the victim of such comments is. Sexism and racism does not need a history of occurrences to be validated. An individual case of discrimination, based upon someones sex, is prejudice, it’s discrimination, it’s sexist.
A good example of something that is validated by historical occurrences is the use of the derogatory term “nigger” and “cracker”. One is offensive, one is not, because one has been used throughout history as a derogatory term dating back to when one race was enslaved by the other. The fact that white people aren’t “allowed” to use that word is justified by me. But sexism and racism, in itself, needs no such deep insight and thought. Sexism is sexism, racism is racism, regardless of who the victim is.
Finally, the semantics of the article are contradictory. The notion that George wants to work towards a bettered society is backhanded by her own words as the article betters nothing. Belittling white-men is not progression. Excluding white-men is not progression. Making enemies of white-men is not progression. It’s harmful, it’s frustrating and it’s not positive. It’s backwards.